Cousins

[Tomomi]

Well I have this cousin, her parents are divorced. Well anyway my family has never really kept in contact with my aunt cause we are not blood-related. Well anyway my mom had this stampin up part (she sells it) and my cousin and my aunt came over. It was the first time in years we talked to her. Well anyway my cousin hasn't acted like she had since before my grandparents died and my cousin's parents got divorced. Well the thing was my aunt let her run wild. My uncle never usually lets her act that wild. She was action really snobby on top of that. Since all this was at my house I decided to show one of my other cousins my room and later on in my room she is throwing stuff around my room! I couldn't believe it. Some of it was breakable! I told the adults but I think they were to busy making cards. Well two of my aunts weren't but they don't care what there kids do. Well anyway on top of that she goes and disses what I love/ have an obsession with. I am an otaku about anime and manga. She knows that. She loves horses. Well anyway she still goes and says all this bad stuff about it. Now I hate her. The thing is I don't think that you are supposed to hate her. I was so mad. I couldn't believe it. She doesn't realize that what she said really hit me hard. My mom is going to tell her dad but I know that I will never be able to trust her again. I am a lot smarter now then when I was younger but she never did anything like that. I am so ashamed of her being my cousin. And on top of that she talks to my friends and gets invited to the chatrooms by my friends. I am going to tell my friends I don't want them talking to her. I haven't really told my friends to much because I am always keeping stuff to myself in the first place. I don't have a clue if I should open up to my friends more or make my shield bigger so that I will avoid more pain and sorrow.

[sweetsakura]

hmmm, this is not good. well, the truth is she may just has a lot of anger abotu the situation. i thinkies its a normal reaction. also, sometimes people likies this are afraid of rejection, so usies this way of acting sort of as a defnse mechanism, i thinkies. ^__^ tip: the meaner she gets to u, be nice and nicer. ^__^

[Kyuu]

Blah... just forget about it and simply ignore...

If she pisses you some more... then DO something about it. As to what? That's for your own discretion.

[One Wing Angel Cloud]

Man and I thought I had it bad try to find common ground what I mean is find simular interest or let i ride out either is good.

[Hybrid Countdown]

Well...making ur shield bigger isn't gonna help..Your just basically telling them that all the stuff your cousin said about you was true and consume all that hatred and will get to you mentally and emotionally and no shield is big enough to block all that. I basically went thru the same thing..try and talk to ur cousin one on one and tell her your fed up with all the crap shes been saying about you to you and ur friends..the best way to solve problems is to comfront anything that comes to you instead of letting other people do it for you. And have a chat with your uncle..telling your mom to talk to your uncle isn't worth it b/c your mother doesn't know how you exactly feel, only you do..and only you can tell your uncle how you really feel in this situation. And also talk to your friends...if your very close to your friends and they know you alot, then I'm sure that they aren't quick to believe all the stuff your cousin said.

[G­oku]

Blah... just forget about it and simply ignore...

If she pisses you some more... then DO something about it. As to what? That's for your own discretion.

I think this is a good idea, if she annoys you more get her told!

[Kawaii Little Angel]

When I come across a person that annoying I just tend to avoid contact with that person. But if that doesn't work for you and talking to her doesn't work for you, declare war on her and make her life a living hell. My advice sucks -_-

[Tomomi]

Thanks, I will try that. The reason she is like that is because her mom acts like that but I will try. Also my mom was just going to tell my uncle what she did. And with my friends, I am close but not really really close to them. Thanks for all your advice and help.

[Macht]

People who act like that need a hard slap to the face.

[qwwerty]

People who act like that need a hard slap to the face.

or a punch in the head. gawd i hate ppl lke that, so i just tell 'em off, then they act tuffer than me, then SNAP!!!!!!! i go crazy, happpens all the time.

[Hikari no Tabi]

Thanks, I will try that. The reason she is like that is because her mom acts like that but I will try. Also my mom was just going to tell my uncle what she did. And with my friends, I am close but not really really close to them. Thanks for all your advice and help.

I don't have a relationship like that, or many friends at that, so making your shield bigger would not help your situation. Ever heard of the term, "Like mother, like daughter"? Well, this is a good example of that. :wink: Maybe it's denial or great anger that she is feeling, and she kept it all inside. However, she did release it in a rather... awful manner. If she continues to piss you off, I have only three things to tell you:

*Talk to her.

Tell her she's being a total *****, and if she still won't listen, then too bad for her.

*Give her a hard slap or a punch in the face.

Cruel, yes, but it'll solve the problem. AND she won't get to talk as much. :D

*Be a ***** to her too.

Just piss her off and make her life a living hell, then she'll see how you feel.

As for what others have said, I have to agree with some of 'em. Making her life a living hell and slapping her are good things if you ask me. But try to be nice to her first. If that doesn't work, she'll have hell to pay.

[Tomomi]

The bad thing about slapping or hitting her is that I don't see here too much now that here parents are divorced.

[darkglass]

i hate my cousins...
same thing........
i dunno if is it because they're younger or just plain annoying.

[Dark Kodama]

First thing is that being a ***** right back would only make things worse. Just talk to your cousin and tell her how you feel. Also don't tell your friends not to talk to her. If they are inviting her to chat that probably means they like to talk to her. So just because she is being a ***** to you dosn't mean they can't talk to her. Again just try to tell her how you feel and if she still persists....just lock her out of your room and put an eletric current to it .:twisted:

[Hikari no Tabi]

First thing is that being a ***** right back would only make things worse. Just talk to your cousin and tell her how you feel. Also don't tell your friends not to talk to her. If they are inviting her to chat that probably means they like to talk to her. So just because she is being a ***** to you dosn't mean they can't talk to her. Again just try to tell her how you feel and if she still persists....just lock her out of your room and put an eletric current to it .:twisted:

That'd work too, especially the thing with the electric current. Now that I think about it, I guess I suggested some really cruel stuff, ne? Well, just listen to Dark Kodama and you'll do fine. If you listen to me, well all but the first suggestion, then you'll probably be punished. If talking doesn't work, then yeah, lock her out of your room whenever she comes over. But if I were in your position, I'd just give that mother f*cker a hard punch in the face, but it is obvious that you cannot do this, so just tell her.

And be assertive about it. Don't let her walk over you like some doormat.